Cultivating Character for a Flourishing Life
“Every time you make a choice you are turning the central part of you, the part of you that chooses, into something a little different from what it was before...you are slowly turning this central thing either into a heavenly creature or a hellish creature.”
In the tapestry of life, our choices weave the threads that eventually form the fabric of our character. C.S. Lewis’ words remind us that character is the culmination of our decisions, actions, and responses over time. Imagine waking up one day and seeing not your physical appearance in the mirror, but the embodiment of your character. Would you see a heavenly creature or a hellish one, as described by Lewis? In a world where character is visible, where virtues and flaws are tangible, how would you present yourself? This blog delves into the significance of character and its pivotal role in shaping a flourishing life.
Character as the Sum of Actions
Character isn’t a static trait; it’s the sum of our actions, choices, and behaviors over time. Just as a skilled painter creates a masterpiece with each brushstroke, we craft our character with each decision. UCLA basketball coach John Wooden accurately remarked that sports don’t necessarily develop character; they reveal it. This holds true in all aspects of life. Our character is developed through community, adversity, and our interactions with others.
The Importance of Character for Flourishing
Character is intrinsically tied to our flourishing, the shalom life that God intends for us. Psalm 115:14 beautifully captures this sentiment: “May the LORD cause you to flourish, both you and your children.” But how can we achieve such flourishing? Let’s explore the keys to character development and the pathway to a shalom life.
Key Aspects of Character Development:
Alignment of Inner and Outer Worlds: Genuine flourishing occurs when our inner world aligns harmoniously with our outer world. The persona we present in public should mirror our behavior in private. A disparity between these realms indicates a character issue that requires attention. Living authentically, regardless of who’s watching, is essential.
Leaving a Legacy of Impact: Just as a pebble creates ripples in a pond, excellent character leaves a profound impact. In the case of Doug Durbin, whose funeral service I recently did, his legacy wasn’t defined by his intelligence or achievements but by his love, kindness, and mentorship. Character shapes our interactions, influences those around us, and leaves a lasting legacy.
Trust is the Currency of Flourishing: Trust is the currency of flourishing. A strong character builds trust through consistent right actions, sincere love, and ethical behavior. This trust extends to business, family, and life’s trajectory, creating a foundation for success and growth.
Philippians 4 provides a roadmap for character development and flourishing. Here are the key principles:
Yielding to the Spirit: Character transformation isn't solely about self-improvement but yielding to the Spirit's guidance. Rejoicing in the Lord and recognizing His nearness allows the Holy Spirit to flow through us. Rejoicing in God's presence aligns us with the Holy Spirit's transformative power.
Confession and Gratitude: Confession and gratitude are powerful tools. Confession to God and others releases guilt, clears the conscience, and fosters renewal. Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have, creating an upward spiral of positive behavior, better mental health, and enhanced relationships.
Guarding Hearts and Minds: Shalom is the culmination of character development. By focusing on noble thoughts, purity, and excellence, we reshape our minds and practices. The result is the transcendent shalom of God guarding our hearts and minds.
Nurturing a Flourishing Life
Character isn’t merely an abstract concept; it’s the driving force behind a life of flourishing. Our choices, actions, and thoughts shape our character, which in turn molds our destiny. The journey toward a shalom life involves aligning our inner and outer worlds, leaving a legacy of impact, and building trust through consistent actions. By following the principles of Philippians 4, practicing confession, gratitude, and mindful thoughts, we pave the way for a life marked by flourishing and authentic character.
Blog adapted from August 27, 2023 message by Minister Mark Ashton
