“The world has yet to see what God can do with and for and through and in and by the man who is full and wholly consecrated to him. I will try my utmost to be that man.”
D. L. Moody
In his book Men of Courage, Dr. Larry Crabb writes that there are three characteristics of an inauthentic man that represent the battles that go on deep inside their soul. These characteristics are that an inauthentic man feels powerless, angry and terrified. Last week we looked at the characteristic of feeling powerless. This week are going to look at anger.
An inauthentic man who feels angry is easily irritated. They get infuriated when someone asks them to operate out of their comfort zone. For example, when a wife asks for his involvement, an angry man lists things he has already given her. It is usually a list of material things, like what he is providing for his wife or his family. It can be a statement of uncommitted sins – stressing his faithfulness to his wife. Or it can be a favorable comparison to other men who may do less for his wife and family than he does.
Inauthentic men feel strangely good when they sense power within themselves capable of destroying and feel even better when they release it. This release make take the form of putting someone down with cutting words. It can take the form of neglect of a loved one, a friend, a co-worker, or the person who has made them angry. This release can include intimidating a person verbally or physically. Destructive men are not authentic men. They are mad: mad at people, mad at the world, and mad at God. They are full of anger toward everyone but themselves.
By contrast, an authentic man is a far less angry man and less easily threatened. An authentic man has a peace about him. He has the courage to face areas out of his comfort zone. An authentic man is not an abusive man. Rather he is a gentle man, not weak, but gentle. Gentleness is demonstrated in how he cares for and shows compassion towards people.
So, what kind of man are you: inauthentic or authentic?